Would you like to be armed to overcome any challenges you face?
Hey there. Today I want to reveal to you how you can crush your daily challenges in just four simple questions.
Yup that's it...four simple questions to turn daily problems into daily wins.
So one of the major things that I get from a lot of the clients that I care for in my business is that they just get bogged down by some of the daily challenges that they face.
This lead to me doing a lot of studying on this and I’ve come up with four questions that can serve as beta interrupts that you can ask yourself to get yourself back into learning mode, get yourself back into curiosity mode rather than challenge mode rather than anger mode.
...we can all agree that when you're sitting in a spot of frustration, anger, it's really tough to make the best choices.
It's really tough to make solid grounded decisions. How do I get through these choices? So I'm going to give you these four questions.
Question #1: How do I turn this challenge into an opportunity?
Now I know that's easy to say, but not always easy to do, so let's start with an example. Well, being the CEO of two different companies myself, I always look at scheduling my own schedule, as a bit of a struggle at times. Organizing my day. So I thought, how do I turn this into an opportunity?
About a year ago I decided to dive into some productivity courses and after soaking up the material I started to implement some of those things and I turned what was a challenge in my life, scheduling the CEO duties of two separate companies into a great strength of mine on how to be productive and how to be effective.
So that was one of those situations that any of us could face. Here's a challenge. How do I solve this better?
I decided that rather than just be victimized by my lack of productivity, clarity in my schedule, my lack of focus, and my inability to schedule appropriately and delegate appropriately, rather than just be victimized, by that, I decided to get some knowledge to learn more, put that skill set into practice and develop my own techniques on how to master my schedule.
So that was one way. So question number one is how to turn the challenge into an opportunity...now let's move on to the second overcome any challenge question.
Question #2: How do I make this better or easier?
Quite often if we just simply shift our perspective from going, Oh, this is such a challenge...to go, okay, how do I make this better or easier?
When you really ask yourself this question and give yourself some space and peace to listen to your inner voice, you'll find ways of doing things more efficiently. You'll find ways of doing things simply and you'll find ways of bringing joy into the challenging situation.
So, simple question number two to beta interrupt yourself is, okay, I have to deal with this, right? My kid is really upset...my son's having a temper tantrum. How do I make this better or easier?
So rather than be a victim by my kids temper tantrum, I just go, okay, hold on. How do I make this better or easier?
Sometimes it's not easy when you're kids having a temper tension to look for the opportunity, but you can make it better or easier.
What's so helpful about this question is that your subconscious will go where you tell it to, meaning that if you tell it to focus on the temper tantrum...you'll find yourself focusing on that. But, if you focus on finding solutions for the temper tantrum, then your subconscious can focus on coming up with creative solutions instead.
Question #3: What is the 'pain point' of this challenge?
All right, what is the pain point that needs to be fixed? So it has two stages. You have to identify what the pain point is of this problem, of this challenge.
So if we use my, my son's situation, for example, maybe he's having a temper tantrum because he doesn't want to eat his dinner. The fact is the pain point really comes down to my wife and I don't want to deal with him having a little temper tantrum, but we also know that we can't indulge him and pay total attention to him. Cause that's part of why he's having a temper tantrum. Right?
So the pain point is that we are frustrated or we're being bothered by his behavior. And that's the thing that needs to be fixed. Because I can't cure his temper tantrum...that's up to him to stop. Important thing to note...you can't 'make' someone do anything they don't want to do or feel compelled to do...even if they're a 28 month old having a temper tantrum.
So rather than simply sit as a victim in a situation, simply being buried in the challenge, you have to ask yourself...okay, what's the actual problem here? Like what, what am I actually struggling with? Why am I actually upset here? What's the actual challenge and how can that be fixed?
When you let your mind go to that place you give yourself permission to look for answers to the real pain points your suffering from, rather than allowing yourself to simply sit in a reactive and emotional state.
This is a nice and simple question, that gives you a very powerful answer.
Question #4: What's the Upside here?
I always, use helping people move as the example for this because chances are there's not really an opportunity for me there.
So what's the upside or benefit for me helping my buddy John move? Deepen our friendship. We get to spend some time together. In other words if I change the situation from going...yuk this is going to be so annoying and I don't want to deal with this, I'd rather be watching my Vancouver Canucks play hockey, or whatever it is. Not that I can right now during COVID-19, but you get what I'm saying, right?
Rather than be there, I go, what's the upside? Well I get to spend time with John and we can hang out and you know, we can catch up and have some laughs. We can rub elbows or touch feet or whatever we can do right now. My point is is that that if you take it from being a frustration situation and you ask the simple question, what's the upside or benefit to doing this, then you shift your energy around the whole problem in the whole challenge.
So there you go.
Four simple, easy, beta interrupt style questions that you can ask yourself whenever you're facing something difficult.
So I hope you got great value out of today. I want to say thank you so much for reading this. I'd love to hear your thoughts...so please leave a comment below.
What was your favorite question? Was this helpful? That kinda thing.
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